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Maria Rosária .'s avatar

´´Do you like them because of who they are and the deep connection you two share or because no one has treated you well and they are the first to do so? ´´. - the violence 🔥

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millie's avatar

men when i am nice to them at my work literally right now 👁️🫦👁️🫴💍

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tunmise adebowale's avatar

they think you being nice to them is you flirting when you're doing your job 💀

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0%'s avatar

Really good post: I remember I would be breaking my heart by thinking everyone wanted me..like girl chill.. haha thank u for this !

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tunmise adebowale's avatar

no worries!! i was the same years ago 😭

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0%'s avatar

What did you do to heal from this part of you? I’m definitely navigating different things like meditation and shadow work which consists of journaling and painting but what do you practice daily to be more comfortable in your vessel and how you navigate this world?

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tunmise adebowale's avatar

i also do journaling! painting is such a wonderful outlet. for me, i do a lot of yoga and pilates to calm me down. i got into pottery and did a lot of clay work. to be comfortable, i stopped masking for other people and said no more often. i find that consuming and trying different art forms (writing, drawing, pottery, music, theatre, photography, etc) makes me channel energy into my creative endeavours rather than channelling energy into people

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0%'s avatar

Stop I journal as well do you do more like venting or do u do more journal prompts ? Also do u have more than one journal? I seem to have more than one journal and usually. I’ll even use it to make art like a sketch book journal so like drawing writing kinda thing? Also stop same I do yoga too!!! I wanna give Pilates another try haha I’ve done YouTube Pilates but I would love to save for a class if I find one in my area also wanna get into pottery I feel my spirit being called to sculpture. Fuck I’m so proud of you for ending the cycle of masking I catch myself still to this day “performing” and I’m like dude chill I’m a lot nicer to myself about it though. Also heavy on the art form thank you so fucking much for the inspiration and for sharing please keep creating please keep writing and please keep being you because you are touching someone deeply with your words like me. CREATE CREATE CREAT hehe 🩷🌷🌸☘️

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tunmise adebowale's avatar

i prefer venting! sometimes my emotions run faster than my hand writing the words down lmao. omg twins, because i have several journals that i switch in-between. i have a journal for writing and a journal for drawing and art. pilates has a lot of health benefits for the body so i always recommend it! please continue unmasking! you do not need to perform for others. thank you so much for your warm and loving words, it really does mean a lot to me :,) i will keep on creating!

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Precious Stephens's avatar

Just yesterday, someone told me they thought I liked a man because I was polite: he asked a question and I asked a follow up question just to make conversation 😕

And the dude on instagram, LOL — talk about audacity.

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tunmise adebowale's avatar

oh my 😭 people really take politeness as romantic interest.

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aïcha 🫶🏾✨☁️🧚🏾‍♀️🥥's avatar

Had a deep conversation about this with a close friend of mine yesterday, couldn’t have come at a better time!

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tunmise adebowale's avatar

thank you! it’s a topic that has been floating in my head

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legally elle <3's avatar

seriously calling me out with this one

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tunmise adebowale's avatar

lmao 😭

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Azeezah Oguntayo's avatar

Deep!👏

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Jane's avatar

I loved this! I think I am at least a decent person most of the time, and people in my life tell me sometimes that I am positive, loving, kind, thoughtful, etc. I feel so seen because I recently had a similar experience to the Albert Camus quote incident that really baffled me. In short, I asked a male friend to hang out and he responded by saying he wasn't looking to date right now. It is taking some time to get over that strange blow... this helps :,)

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tunmise adebowale's avatar

omg that is such an out-of-pocket and out-of-place thing to say. i'm happy this piece helped! :)

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Eunié light's avatar

What a beautiful piece I’ve read this morning 🌸

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tunmise adebowale's avatar

aww, thank you so much 🫶🏾 🫂 💛

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inconnu's avatar

this would be me in the first three seconds of an interaction then sense would return to me with a quickness and id calm down. this was a fun read

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tunmise adebowale's avatar

"sense would return to me with a quickness" 😭 this made me laugh but it was so honest and relatable, thank you for reading!

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Rayyan's avatar

👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

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jessica myles's avatar

at least I know now T_T thanks sm for this post lol

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tunmise adebowale's avatar

lmao 😭 no worries girl

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Alexis Dove's avatar

!!!

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