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Wallace-'s avatar

at the end, everyone is capable of love. And you have just laid out everything leading up to that motion.

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tunmise adebowale's avatar

yes, everyone is capable of loving. i'm happy the message was clear :)

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Dominique's avatar

I often think about this. I think it's tough staying strong in that belief that you know what you want and are not swayed by the feeling of 'falling behind'. Hard but worthwhile

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tunmise adebowale's avatar

you got it spot on. 'hard but worthwhile' i like that :)

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Zuru's avatar

It's crazy how timely this is. This year, as I've been coming and settling into myself, I've been conflicted about this. Do I want to experience romantic love so that I can expand my tapestry of love or do I just want to tick it off my to do list coz my peers are doing so? Thank you for writing this. It's nice to see one's experience out here with more nuance

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Mary Sonny's avatar

Beautiful! True love is the love we share with the people dear to us, not just romantic partners!

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tunmise adebowale's avatar

and the intimate moments we share with them too :)

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Murewa Saibu's avatar

the so called “proof” is emerges from a place of lack of confidence, peer pressure and seeking of external validation.

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tunmise adebowale's avatar

very true. because when we remove those things, the need for “proof” disappears

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Nikia Bella's avatar

I hope that girl broke up with ol dude and learned something

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Fadeelah Onyeche's avatar

i’ve never related to anything more! i love this :) 💗

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tunmise adebowale's avatar

thank you so much! 🫶🏾 🧡

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jessica myles's avatar

this speaks volumes to what i've been learning lately. so real, tunmise!

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tunmise adebowale's avatar

thank you for supporting and reading, jessica! :)

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jessica myles's avatar

ofc! :)

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ryan elizabeth peete's avatar

i keep returning to this essay...such beautiful words

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tunmise adebowale's avatar

awwww thank you :) this made me smile

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