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Katy Bav's avatar

I’ve been fighting since my 30s for a hysterectomy and been fobbed off at every turn. The cost of my periods since they started going wild when I was 14 has been so much more than the expense of sanitary products.

It has cost me wages, entire jobs, education, self confidence, occasionally my social life, occasionally my sex life, embarrassment, anxiety about where the nearest toilet might be, self esteem, belief in healthcare systems.

Plus all the clothes and bedsheets I’ve had to replace over the years.

I’m mid 40s and now it has suddenly switched from

“you’re too young to be having those problems (so we’re going to leave you with them, if you refuse to let us shove a spiky metal coil inside you with no pain relief, instead of helping)”

to

“well you’re probably in early stage menopause, it’ll sort itself out eventually. It could take 10 years though.”

I Am Done.

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tunmise adebowale's avatar

i am really sorry about all the struggles and frustration you’ve felt regarding this. the lack of attentiveness given to women’s health is so irritating

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Alexis Dove's avatar

“It is exhausting how women are expected to be soldiers and nurses at the same time, carrying the burden of both fighting and healing in a world that barely notices the toll it takes” thank you Tunmise❤️‍🩹

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tunmise adebowale's avatar

thank you for reading Alexis 💝💞

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alison's avatar

I felt every word of this, you’re a very talented writer!

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tunmise adebowale's avatar

awwww thank you so much :,)

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whitney sol's avatar

beautifully written as always. the “admirability of women’s pain” is totally propaganda that benefits the patriarchy. the condition of womanhood is very frustrating!

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tunmise adebowale's avatar

you’re right!! you used the perfect word for it too “propaganda,” gosh it is tough being a woman

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Meghna Nair's avatar

"endless patience", two words that perfectly sum up womanhood. Beautiful piece <3

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tunmise adebowale's avatar

thank you for reading this! ❤️

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Mohika Mudgal's avatar

God is a woman! 💕☀️

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